I finished reading Stop whining and start living, and got a lot of good tips and ideas that I hope to discuss with whomever I can discuss and share it with. One of the most profound tips I got from the book, was that, everyone is entitled to thier feelings and we should never, put down anyones feelings, we shouldn't let them feel and deal with thier feelings as they see fit. Also we should learn that constant, whining and complaining about our situation is just going to push people away. and that we need to forget about the past, as in put the past behind us, espeically as children, as children, we don't get to decide how our parents or guaradians raise us, we don't get a say in any of it, in whether they divorce, or stay together. but when we become adults, we have a choice, we can make our own choices, based on the present and not based on the past. alot of people close up and hide thier feelings because of thier childhoods. but that is wrong. Living in the past, and reacting to the past, and judging people, based on the little kid in you is just wrong and its not going to get you anywhere. I am not perfect, and I will never claim to be perfect. I have days, in which I let the angry little girl in me take control over my emotions and my actions. However I am working on it. I have made a conscious choice, to leave the past behind me and move forward. That is life, if you dwell in the past, you lose your present. and the present is all that you have.